I'm going to say this as a neutral party since I've personally never had a problem with you.
I do believe that you mean well. Truly. But from what I've seen, the main issue is that your apologies don't hold much weight when you don't admit what you've done wrong, and in turn it makes it very hard to forgive you. And this goes back to the Waldo incident. I saw screenshots of your 'apology' to Waldo, and the biggest issue with that was instead of saying I'm sorry and being understanding that Waldo was upset, you tried to justify your actions and turn it on him because to you it was 'just a joke'. That specifically is where you went wrong. You didn't show compassion or empathy for how your 'jokes' made him feel. If your 'apologies' to others that I didn't see were anything like that one, then I can see why it rubbed a lot of people the wrong way. Don't justify what you did, simply say "I didn't realize that my jokes were upsetting you and I understand now that they crossed the line. I'm sorry, it won't happen again." End it at that, actually mean it when you say it won't happen again, and if someone asks you to stop then stop.
You have made mistakes. You're young, that'll happen, and from your posts I can tell that you are trying to get out of the deep hole you dug yourself into. And it won't be easy to win people over at this point. But my advice to you is to be nice, and don't try to justify what you did, instead move forward and when others point out your past, tell them that you understand you messed up and are trying to move on from it - don't justify it and be patient. And after this post, stay out of the public eye for a bit, because this just encourages more drama and might actually do more harm than good for you.
To others in this league reading this, especially those that do have a problem with Butters: I know that you are sick of giving him more chances. I know that he has done wrong and no apology can ever make it right. But please, try and see the good in him, because despite his wrongdoings, he is trying to be better. It is one of my fatal flaws to see the best in people, and this is no different.
It is easy to forget when only communicating through a computer or phone screen that the people on the other end are human. So, Butters, please understand that in the future your words can affect that person differently than intended and that their feelings are valid. And everyone else, Butters is a complex being of his own - you don't have to like him - you have reason not to - but please don't wish harm or any ill-will on him or others in general.
Sorry for writing a book. This is tough for me because I did have good interactions with you but I'm also fairly close to a lot of the others that haven't. I care about this league and the people in it, so I'm just hoping that in time this will all be behind us. Good luck
I do believe that you mean well. Truly. But from what I've seen, the main issue is that your apologies don't hold much weight when you don't admit what you've done wrong, and in turn it makes it very hard to forgive you. And this goes back to the Waldo incident. I saw screenshots of your 'apology' to Waldo, and the biggest issue with that was instead of saying I'm sorry and being understanding that Waldo was upset, you tried to justify your actions and turn it on him because to you it was 'just a joke'. That specifically is where you went wrong. You didn't show compassion or empathy for how your 'jokes' made him feel. If your 'apologies' to others that I didn't see were anything like that one, then I can see why it rubbed a lot of people the wrong way. Don't justify what you did, simply say "I didn't realize that my jokes were upsetting you and I understand now that they crossed the line. I'm sorry, it won't happen again." End it at that, actually mean it when you say it won't happen again, and if someone asks you to stop then stop.
You have made mistakes. You're young, that'll happen, and from your posts I can tell that you are trying to get out of the deep hole you dug yourself into. And it won't be easy to win people over at this point. But my advice to you is to be nice, and don't try to justify what you did, instead move forward and when others point out your past, tell them that you understand you messed up and are trying to move on from it - don't justify it and be patient. And after this post, stay out of the public eye for a bit, because this just encourages more drama and might actually do more harm than good for you.
To others in this league reading this, especially those that do have a problem with Butters: I know that you are sick of giving him more chances. I know that he has done wrong and no apology can ever make it right. But please, try and see the good in him, because despite his wrongdoings, he is trying to be better. It is one of my fatal flaws to see the best in people, and this is no different.
It is easy to forget when only communicating through a computer or phone screen that the people on the other end are human. So, Butters, please understand that in the future your words can affect that person differently than intended and that their feelings are valid. And everyone else, Butters is a complex being of his own - you don't have to like him - you have reason not to - but please don't wish harm or any ill-will on him or others in general.
Sorry for writing a book. This is tough for me because I did have good interactions with you but I'm also fairly close to a lot of the others that haven't. I care about this league and the people in it, so I'm just hoping that in time this will all be behind us. Good luck
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